Only a good parent can become a best friend their child. Are you a good parent? Most of the parents say yes. But it is not very easy to get a friendship with their child. The traditional parenting concept is utterly changed now. Parent- child relationship now became more open and friendly. This is a trend which needs encouragement as our lifestyle and society changed much. Children should get enough care and love from their parent when they are at each stages of their growth.

Parents can give love, but care is not given much importance. When parents try to give care, it may become an over ruling or controlling them. It will not produce good results and may irritate the children. How can we control our children without making them annoyed? The best method is to become the friend of your child. Thus parents can know all about their child and give him advices and support just like what a friend is doing. Then they don’t have any hesitation to share all.

But it is the duty of the parents to maintain such a deep relation with their child. It is must if the son or daughter is at their teenage. At this time they naturally have problems and worries to share. If the mother or father is their good companion, there is nothing to worry about them. For that parents can do something.

Communication is very important. If you are a parent, you should find out time to spend time with your child even though you are in very busy schedule. Your children’s age is not the matter you have to hear what they have, to share with you. That may be their simple worries about study, achievements, their simple mistakes and whatever it, you have to hear patiently. You can suggest opinions, share your thoughts, make fun of them, appreciate their good work, and console them.

You can’t imagine the strength they are getting from these. They will respect you more and love you deeply. They never feel alone when they are in any trouble. You can see that they rush towards you whenever they need a help and advice. At that time how happy and relieved you are. You have to encourage them to share all. You can make feel in them that you can assist well to take any decisions.

You should show interest in their favorite things. You can share your opinion when your daughter or son trying a new hairstyle and help them to select the best. Through this you can have a control over them without making them know. You should know who their friends are and how good are they. You can keep good relation with their friends too. Thus you can guide them to the right track.

It is your duty to care your children. The best way is to become a friend of them. Then you have nothing hard to do for this. When your child says “my mom/dad is my best friend” you can be proud of yourself because, you became both a parent and a friend.

Author: Nayana Valsaraj (Kannur, Kerala)

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