While I was researching for an article to write about parenting for my blog publisher, I was lucky to find one such book that is a current bestseller on the New York Times list of best selling books... “Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting” by Laurence Steinberg and Laura Carnell and published by Simon & Schuster. The book was a revelation. It was so easy to understand and follow the advice that I highly recommend all parents to go through it just for the wealth of information inside it. But there was one sentence that caught my attention and made me think deeply. Most parents feel that they are inadequate as parents when they are overwhelmed by the problems they had to face while dealing with their children. According to Dr. Steinberg “There are no ideal parents anywhere!” He further goes on to add that all parents are good parents and there is never a parent that is ideal all the time. All parents can strive to be still better parents for now. Here is how he says it can be done. He formulates 10 rules to be observed while dealing with children... How you treat your children is vital Keep this rule pasted on your mind where you can see it all the time. How you react and treat your child will depend on what you want to get done from them every day. Remind yourself with the question “How will my child respond if I behave in a certain way?” Remember there are no limits to loving your child It should be noted that you cannot mess up your child with plain love. There is no limit to loving your child. You can ruin your child only by being too lenient when you should not or by giving too many material things, all but not by love alone. Engage yourself with your child For a parent, this is most important but can seem to be a futile task for many. Keeping time off for the child can mean changing of priorities for most working mothers and fathers in modern times. There is no alternative; you have to sacrifice some of your interests for their sake. Keep pace with your parenting to match with your … [Read more...]
