Why Do Teens Try to Kill Themselves? Suicidal behavior is defined as a preoccupation or act that is focused on causing one's own death voluntarily. Intent to cause one's death is essential in the definition. Suicidal ideation refers to thoughts of suicide or wanting to take one's own life. Suicidal behavior refers to actions taken by one who is considering or preparing to cause his/her own death. Few teens were interviewed after making a suicide attempt by a NGO. Most of the answers were found related to one or more from the following categories. • Trying to escape from a situation that seemed impossible to deal with or to get relief from really bad thoughts or feelings. • Some people who end their lives or attempt suicide might be trying to escape feelings of rejection, hurt, or loss. • Some people may be worried about disappointing friends or family members. • Some may feel unwanted, unloved, victimized, or like they're a burden to others. • Worry about sexuality and relationships, wondering if their feelings and attractions are normal, or if they will be loved and accepted. • Some teens have learning problems or attention problems that make it hard for them to succeed in school. We all feel overwhelmed by difficult emotions or situations sometimes. But most people get through it or can put their problems in perspective and find a way to carry on with determination and hope. • So why does one person try suicide when another person in the same tough situation does not? • What makes some people more resilient (better able to deal with life's setbacks and difficulties) than others? • What makes a person unable to see another way out of a bad situation besides ending his or her life? The answer to those questions lies in the fact that most people who commit suicide have depression. Depression: Depression leads people to focus mostly on failures and disappointments, to emphasize the negative side of their situations, and to downplay their own capabilities or worth. Someone with severe depression is unable … [Read more...]
Parenting: Develop your child early
Every child has different qualities and you can never compare your child with others on one constraint. Parents should understand this fact and start looking for qualities which their children have instead of which they don’t. Every child is blessed and has some hidden qualities. Not everybody can excel at mathematics, singing or for that matter any subject. Everybody is unique and has his/her own individuality. Parents should understand this fact and instead of reproaching their child, they should examine what they child is best at. For example if you child has a quality of singing, you can appreciate him and should get him a private tutor or put him in any institution where he can master at music. Most of us go the traditional way and want our kids to excel at school of our choice instead of taking our child’s inclination into consideration. There are few children who are gifted and have extra ordinary out-of-the-way thinking. They might not be able to excel at academics but if you understand what they are good at and give them a platform to show their proficiency, they can make you proud of them. As parents you should try to help build their dreams instead of imposing your dreams on them and wanting them to adapt to it. If your child is good at arts, put him in art school. If he is good at music, then put him in music school. If he is good at any sports, appreciate him and get him to join any good sports club where he can excel his quality. Over 80% of the artists were not good at academics but had an artist hidden in them. Their parents understood that and followed their child’s dream and ambition and now everybody is proud of them. You should also be aware that kids can develop their interests at later stage as well. It’s a possibility that you kid is good at academics at age 5. At age 6 he develops his interest in painting and at the age of 10, he would want to learn music. You have to be very patient while shaping up your child’s career. You have to examine closely when to allow and when to reject his plea. There are few extra ordinary children who are multi-talented. You will … [Read more...]
