Only a good parent can become a best friend their child. Are you a good parent? Most of the parents say yes. But it is not very easy to get a friendship with their child. The traditional parenting concept is utterly changed now. Parent- child relationship now became more open and friendly. This is a trend which needs encouragement as our lifestyle and society changed much. Children should get enough care and love from their parent when they are at each stages of their growth. Parents can give love, but care is not given much importance. When parents try to give care, it may become an over ruling or controlling them. It will not produce good results and may irritate the children. How can we control our children without making them annoyed? The best method is to become the friend of your child. Thus parents can know all about their child and give him advices and support just like what a friend is doing. Then they don’t have any hesitation to share all. But it is the duty of the parents to maintain such a deep relation with their child. It is must if the son or daughter is at their teenage. At this time they naturally have problems and worries to share. If the mother or father is their good companion, there is nothing to worry about them. For that parents can do something. Communication is very important. If you are a parent, you should find out time to spend time with your child even though you are in very busy schedule. Your children’s age is not the matter you have to hear what they have, to share with you. That may be their simple worries about study, achievements, their simple mistakes and whatever it, you have to hear patiently. You can suggest opinions, share your thoughts, make fun of them, appreciate their good work, and console them. You can’t imagine the strength they are getting from these. They will respect you more and love you deeply. They never feel alone when they are in any trouble. You can see that they rush towards you whenever they need a help and advice. At that time how happy and relieved you are. You have to encourage them to share all. You can make feel in them that you can assist well to … [Read more...]
Discipline or Punishment
Many parents do not recognize the harmful effects of physical and verbal punishment. They don’t know that yelling, slapping, hitting, and spanking teach violence, destroy self-esteem, create anger, interfere with learning, and damage the relationship between parent and child. Discipline & Punishment are used interchangeably; punishment and discipline do not have the same meaning and do not serve the same purpose having most characteristics in direct contrast to one another. Most parents are not aware that unknowingly they are actually punishing their child while teaching them discipline lessons. Unfortunately, most current parenting books and articles recommend "alternatives" which in reality are merely alternative punishments. They never differentiate between Discipline and punishment. What is Discipline? Discipline is guidance. When we guide children toward positive behavior and learning, we are promoting a healthy attitude. Positive guidance encourages a child to think before he acts. Positive guidance promotes self-control. Different styles of discipline produce results that are different. Discipline requires thought, planning, and patience. Effective Discipline:The use of discipline is thinking and trying process. Remember: • Effective discipline is good for parent and child. • A child learns to take responsibility for his or her behavior. • The parent keeps a warm relationship with the child. • The goal is to teach the child how to behave, not to make the child suffer. What is punishment? Punishment is usually hitting, spanking, or any type of control behavior. Basically there are four kinds of punishment: Physical, with words, holding back rewards, and penalizing the child. Punishment does not promote self discipline. It only stops misbehavior for that moment. Punishment may fulfill a short-term goal, but it actually interferes with the accomplishment of your long-term goal of self control. What’s the Solution? True alternatives to punishment are those that help the child to learn and grow in a healthy way. … [Read more...]
