A child is the apple of a parent's eye. For the parent, nothing is good enough for the child. He must have the best clothes, the best education, the best of everything. In the process of providing all this, the child gets pampered. And if both parents go out to work, there will be the additional feeling of guilt that they are unable to spend time with the child. They try to make up for this lapse by indulging the child some more. In no time, the child learns how to get things done by emotional blackmail. This will prove detrimental to the child's welfare in the long run. He will surely not lack in things tangible. He may not lack even in knowledge. But he will fall woefully short in the ‘values’ department. Such a child will in all probability be a selfish brat, uncaring for others, arrogant, disrespectful. He will be a couch potato watching meaningless programmes on television and whiling away time idly with friends. The child used to having his own way at home may never learn how to handle any kind of failure and even as he achieves physical growth may remain an emotional cripple. Such may be the fate of a child with seemingly the best education that money can buy. Parents will have only themselves to blame for such a state of affairs. Between spending all their time on earning as much as possible for the sake of the child and thinking that their child can do no wrong, they would have spoilt the child rotten. The solution of course rests with the parents themselves. They have to realise that the environment in which the child is reared, plays a significant role in moulding his character. They cannot shrug off their responsibility by just admitting the child to a prestigious school. School may be good for theory but for practical lessons in life, the home is the best place and parents, the finest teachers. For best results of course, the parents have to lead by example. A lying parent cannot teach the child the value of truth, a lazy parent cannot teach the value of work. Formal education may provide the child the means of earning a living, but the parent has to teach the value of service, the joy of giving. Many … [Read more...]
Advice for Parents: How to raise Children?
Parents play in developing the personality of their children. Parents are role models for children in their early years. Afterwards, the role of teachers, other members in the family, relatives and friends has definite impact on the children’s behavior. During childhood, the child naturally depends, physically and mentally on others. During this growing period, he expects (besides other necessities), to have caring, loving, relationship and also friendship, from near and dear. If he obtains the above things in early life, it means we are providing him a healthy mental atmosphere and the child grows with full self- confidence. While growing, the children might have many experiences, which bring sufficient changes in their thinking, feelings and behavior pattern. Children respond accordingly to our behavior (which may be positive or negative). So be cautious while dealing with children. Parents’ behavior reflects in children. They act as mirrors to our actions. How does Parents personality affect child? 1. Parents’patience and excusing mentality teaches children the quality of forbearance. 2. If parents give sufficient safety to their children, automatically they develop full confidence, not only in the parents but also in the surrounding society. 3. Give full support to the good deeds done by the children, that act of yours inculcate and create confidence in them and also it boost up their morality. 4. Teach them the techniques in making friendship with colleagues, it helps them to love others. 5. Never exhibit displeasure or angry with children, as it leads to despair and they prefer to move away from the society and do not much interest to mingle with relatives and others. 6. Too much criticism of children makes them cowards and also they suffer from inferiority complex. At present, the changing values in the modern families, causing lot of pressure and mental tension in children and more over they have to spend most of the time in loneliness, there by they are not getting the natural care, love, affection from their parents. It is creating confusion and … [Read more...]
